If you want to change and you retreat to the familiar you will face constant frustration between what you want to do and what you are willing to do. Einstein defined insanity as “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." The question you must ask yourself is “Am I willing to do the necessary work to make the change I want? “ This work includes trusting yourself to step out of your comfort zone and into the unknown. You do not have to jump out of an airplane or swim with sharks to experience fear of the unknown. Standing on the first tee with everyone watching will elicit the same emotional challenges that you will need to overcome.
Many people never step out of their comfort zone to learn to play golf because of these very feelings. There are golfers who never take lessons that would help them improve because they think they have to have to be a good golfer before they take lessons or that they can’t make a mistake. Fear of embarrassment stops many people from making progress and enjoying the great game of golf. Once we understand our feelings to retreat back to the familiar are natural, we can take a deep breath, reaffirm to our self that we are ok, and move forward.
There are 2 key factors that will help us move forward. The first is that we are safe and the second is that we have been successful in the past. To learn how to play golf or to improve your current skill level it is best if you can find a coach with whom you feel comfortable. Look for a qualified PGA & LPGA Professional who can help you. You also want to find a place you feel safe to learn. For some that means taking a group lesson with others who are going through the same process. Others might find private lessons more appealing. Finally, remind yourself how you have been successful in the past when you were learning something new. If you are talking, writing or walking now YOU ARE A SUCCESS! You had to learn how to do these things, you made mistakes in the process, you learned from your mistakes and you developed a new skill. YOU ROCK! So you can certainly learn or improve your golf game.
Don’t be surprised if fear rears it’s ugly head when you start making progress. This is new terrain and the fact that it is different will sound an old familiar alarm to that part of you that was willing to settle or afraid to succeed. You will have times of struggle. Change takes your time and effort but in the end if you are patient and do not skip any steps, a realistic goal will be achieved. Prepare yourself for setbacks, they will happen. Do not make them more than they are, adjustments. Use your time wisely; attacking yourself is an avoidance technique that keeps your energy from positive action. Learn from mistakes and move on. Then simply maintain a practice that will allow you to retain your newly acquired skill. Your golf game will be what you do with your time, see your potential, use your time wisely and enjoy playing the great game of golf for years to come.
As human beings we are happiest when we are learning. We need to expand our horizons or we will shrivel up from boredom. Boredom occurs when we withdraw our attention. Attention keeps you engaged and in the game. Golf is a win, win. We can socialize, exercise our brains & our bodies and take in plenty of beautiful scenery. We have all heard the old saying “use it or loose it.” Let this be your year to expand your horizons by learning or improving. Now it is time to clear your schedule, making it a priority to learn or develop a new skill. The more attention you give the learning process the more successful you will be. It is a process and not a quick fix.